Don’t be a Miserable Giver

Dear Trent,

Let’s start here…

I know you see your purpose as elevating the happiness level of the Collective.

But, I want you to remember this…

No matter where you draw your circle, you’re at the center of it.

No matter how you define your Collective, whether it’s your family, your friends, your country, or every person on the planet…

So, I’d encourage you to start there.

Think about it — even if you had a wife, you don’t have as much control over their happiness as you do your own.

If you’re lucky enough to have kids, you won’t actually be able to control their happiness levels either. Sure, you can influence ‘em, but you can’t actually control ‘em.

You, on the other hand… you can control your’s. In fact, it’s your responsibility to boost your own happiness.

So, start there first.

Then, once you reach that aligned state of joyful peace, move on to other people. I know you will. Because sharing love with others is one of your natural instincts.

So, I need you to see yourself first. And then, trust me when I say, that this sorta selfishness is in everyone’s best interest.

I know this directive — "Be True Selfish" — can be hard to adhere to. It flies in the face of everything you were taught since you were a kid. But I hope you can see that people often called you “selfish” to get you to conform to their wishes. So, muster the courage to be disliked and just let the shame slide off you.

Listen to this call to action instead:

Left unrestricted, your True Self wants to help other people. The real you, the deep-down you is a Giver. Sure, sometimes, your fears & insecurities get in the way. Sure, sometimes, you find it hard to love other people because you’re not refilling your own cup first. And that’s exactly what we’re addressing here.

I don’t want you to turn into a Miserable Giver. You know the type of person I’m talking about: the person who gives & gives & gives to other people but never finds the time to take care of themselves. They end up empty inside. It’s like cooking a huge Thanksgiving feast, then not taking the time to eat.

The Miserable Giver’s soul screams:

Meanwhile, I’d whisper back:

You’ve been a Miserable Giver at times. So, consider this message your reminder.

Be True Selfish. And trust that when your True Self feels seen, you’ll want to share that abundance of love you feel with everyone else in society.